When you hold on to how things went, or how things are, you fail to see how things can be. You block your possibilities.
The same applies to your relationships with others. If you see someone only as who they have been, or who they are now, your relationship with them is likely to wither or die.
Replace judgment and what you already know for appreciation and the unknown – new possibilities. Embody the highest and best your new possibilities demand, and your life and relationships will thrive.